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"Break the rules Michael? I couldn't get that!" Of course
you could. In fact, I'd recommend your rules are precisely
what save you from having what you want in life.
When I say "rules," I mean:
* your ingrained ways of thinking.
* your hidden assumptions.
* your habits.
* your misplaced generalities.
Rules might along with count up that which you call "common
sense." One of the greatest find breakers ever, Albert
Einstein, wrote "common wisdom is the addition of
prejudices acquired by age 18."
Are you feeling "stuck?" Are you in a rut? Can't locate a
solution to an ongoing suffering or challenge? If so, like
many of my clients, it's probably one of your rules keeping
you that way.
Here's a simple example. A client - who I'll call Janice -
really wanted to start an exercise program, but she had
written it off as impossible due to her full of beans schedule.
In our conversations, Janice would tell things gone "that's
just the way it is," or "it's out of my control." As I
questioned Janice further, it became definite one of her
rules was "I have to go to a gym to workout."
Now that may sound silly to some people, but for Janice,
all she knew was "I have to go to a gym to proceed out, and
I don't have get older to go to a gym." like a horse with
blinders on, it's every she could see.
"Janice, who says you have to go to a gym to exercise?"
Light-bulb-aha moment for sure. As soon as Janice let go
of that tiny rule, she was accomplished to consider the many
other options open to her.
Further, by letting go of this particular rule, Janice
began walking each morning taking into account her younger sister. The
two had drifted apart in recent years, and Janice wanted
to enlarge on that relationship.
Here's another example of breaking rules, although a
fictional one. In a recent "Seinfeld" episode, the
character George Costanza discovers if he helpfully does the
opposite of what he'd usually get in a truth situation,
he'll acquire the result he desires in that situation.
George goes for a job interview in the same way as the further York Yankees.
When he meets the team owner, George tells him what a
lousy job he's ended managing the Yankees. instead of being
polite and professional, as he usually would, George is
rude and obnoxious. Naturally, he gets hired.
I don't suggest you follow George's guide . . . not
totally anyway. It no question wouldn't hurt to look at some
of your own rules though. see especially in the area(s)
where you vibes stranded or in a rut.
It might also encourage to chat it out in the manner of someone who's
trained to incite you locate solutions and involve forward, such
as a coach. As one of my supplementary clients recently told me,
"I appreciate your honesty and directness in pointing out
things that I've had "blinders" upon to."
Ready to rupture some rules? Go ahead. You can reach it. As
Thomas Edison said: "hell, there are no rules here--we're
trying to achieve something." It may be the only
difference in the company of a moving picture that's so-so and a sparkle that's
amazing.
It's Your Life! create it great.
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